It's partly the headline ...
Working women 'damaging children'
To be honest, my first reaction was that working women were hitting their kids out of stress but then I read on and thought 'oh not again' ...
Women's increasing economic independence from their male partners is contributing to family break-up which is in turn damaging children, according to a wide-ranging survey into British childhood.
I was puzzled to be honest. Why should women being independent be a bad thing? And then I realised, ah, it's because they have a way out of their marriages. As it goes on to explain ...
"The second change is the rise in family break-up. Women's new economic independence contributes to this rise: it has made women much less dependant on their male partners as has the advent of the welfare state.
But what I can't understand is not the fact that family break-up damages children but why it should be the fault - once again - of the woman. Take these statements one step further and are they REALLY saying that women should be forced to stay in marriages they're obviously not happy with by making them completely dependent on their husbands?
That we're so light-headed that we will flit around where we want just because we can.
Hey new marriage, new hair shampoo... because we're worth it.
Of course not. Or I think not, but trouble is, I can't really see any other way to read this report. After all, as the headline says - it's the WORKING WOMEN who are damaging the children.
What I'm wondering is how much research has been done on just why they are all leaving their husbands as soon as they can, but also how those WORKING MEN also contribute to the damage on the children. This isn't an idle question - I'd really like to know.
Not least because it seems to me that most men I know - and maybe I'm just lucky - feel they have a part to play in bringing up their kids too. However, reports like this seem to ignore that.
Surely we can't go on and on and on demeaning men as parents, or, indeed, husbands?
And as well as anger, I'm feeling relieved my kids are older now and I no longer have to feel those absolute and heartbreaking pangs of guilt I used to have when I read similar headlines on the way to work. Do we really want women out of the workplace and living back on Revolutionary Road?